Create a better sex life – A how-to for sexy, sensual fun!
Talk it up
If you have sexy plans for your partner, call them or text and let them know. Make sensual promises and tell them how much you are planning to enjoy being with them. Make them feel special before you even see them – this is starting the foreplay early!
Take it slow
Make your make-out session last. And last, and last… foreplay can be so good it becomes the finale – and if you DO make it to intercourse, the pleasure will be amplified 10 fold by the anticipation and heightened sensitivity. Either way, it’s a win – win, right?
* Just remember to have your lube handy to lubricate the long-lasting-loving!
Speed it up
Sometimes a quick make-out session and mutual hand job is just what the doctor ordered. Don’t discount a good quickie either – the speed and excitement can break up a predictable sex routine – and spontaneous is sexy!
* Again, sex lube is a great help with speedy sex!
Stop faking
All this does is mis-lead your partner into thinking they have the game sorted. It’s better to be vocal about what you do like and help them find out what you really DO like.
Share your fantasy
Swap your deepest fantasies and (assuming you are both ok with them) take turns to act them out or engage in the different sexy acts that you have both been dreaming of. You can BECOME your partner’s fantasy!
Love your body
Take a good look at yourself and decide to be loving. This miraculous body has done so much for you, and it deserves to be deeply appreciated. Instead of focusing on perceived flaws and wishing you were different, stop. Be grateful. Stroke your skin and appreciate how amazing it feels. Make love and pay attention to how good your body makes you feel. Prepare a script that you can repeat to yourself if you face a cruel mirror or an unforgiving mood, and tell yourself out loud how much you appreciate your one unique, beautiful and wondrous body.
Self love is sexual dynamite. If in doubt, just listen to Maya Angelou’s Phenomenal Woman.
Break the routine
Come on to your partner before work or wake them up for midnight fun. Book a hotel room and bring champagne. Dress up. Have sex outside the bedroom. Or outside. It’s up to you – changing the script means all bets are off.
Let your partner please you
Take turns giving the goodness and let foreplay be a one-way street for a while. Often giving pleasure is just as much fun as getting it, and the person on the receiving end can concentrate 100% on how amazing they are feeling.
Feel great about life
What makes you hum? Whatever your passions are, doing more of them will make your life more vibrant and you more alive. Maybe you bake, run, paint or do Pilates. In fact…
Exercise for a sexier you
Try Pilates, as it creates a mind-body connection that heightens your physical awareness, calms and de-stresses your mind, and builds flexibility and strength. Mindful aerobic exercise like Pilates strengthens your cardiovascular system, raises your metabolism and increases blood flow – which increases sexual enjoyment.
Exercise also makes us more likely to want sex because it stimulates our nervous system and brain as well as our body, reduces stress, and boosts our self-esteem. All exercise is good for you, and the chances are you will look better, feel sexier, and enjoy sex more!
Swap it up
Change the record. Change positions, flip your partner over, slip on top. Mix it up and keep each other guessing.
Add romance
Strew rose petals about, look your lover in the eye and tell them reasons why you love them. Say thank you for things they do for you, and hell, why not give a special little gift right there in the moment. Adding emotion turns sex into making love, and no clever technique can top the incredible feeling of lovemaking with a special someone. Sha-zam!
Chill out
Stressed out is not sexy – it’s both mental and chemical. Get a massage, have a bath, say no to extra projects at work. Walk outdoors, breathe deeply, sleep. Make love. It’s good for you!
Make a move
Coming on to your partner is a huge turn on for them – we all want to be wanted! Slip your arms around them and let them know you want them, now, right now.
Press pause
When things get really great, pause and change to something else – a kissing session, hand play, stroking – until neither of you can stand it any longer. A judicious pause can intensify sensation hugely and increase the intensity of your orgasm.
