Don’t let the digital age kill your sex life

“It began silently – we started getting home from work each night and spending long periods of time scrolling through social media – we wouldn’t talk for hours, and ended up falling asleep without even acknowledging the other one was even there.”

This is how one couple used to spend their precious bonding time after a hard days work – inadvertently ignoring each other, and their relationship in the process, just so they could feel up to date with all the latest happenings.

This might not send alarm bells ringing immediately, but when you stop and think about it how much quality time do you spend being intimate with your partner compared to the length of time plugged into the digital world?

Here are some classic examples of where your precious relationship time is leaking:

Social or Unsocial
The front-runner for all things digital – Social media has become one of the most notorious distractions our relationships have ever seen. Anywhere, anytime, on a date, in the car, or even during sex! It’s important to nip this one in the bud before it becomes habit. It’s never too late.

Digital TV
Whether it’s a Netflix original, a TV show viewed on demand, a remake of an 80s classic or hours of Youtube clips about cats, we’re always looking for a good story to sink our attention into and be entertained by. And while we all need a bit of escape sometimes, the majority of us have become binge watchers.

Shopping, 24/7
From phone cases to stainless steel fry pans, the online shopping centre is always on and can lure you in and keep you hooked for hours on end, forever seeking the best deal. You know you’re in deep if you are convincing yourself you really do need that AM/FM radio solar powered alarm clock.

Online chitter chatter
Although online messaging is a great way to keep in touch with friends, somewhere along the way we seem to have forgotten that “keeping in touch “ doesn’t have to be on a daily basis! Texts, emails, tweets, posts. Here’s to using our voices again.

The first step in reversing that potential damage of excessive digital input on our relationships is admitting there is a problem.

Don’t let technology and the digital age steal your relationship! Reconnect now, the old fashioned way.

Get romantic
Light some candles, open a bottle of something delicious to share and cuddle up

Take a walk
Meandering through the streets holding hands is just good old fashioned fun

Have dinner together
Whether you cook, order in or go out, make sure there isn’t a single digital device in sight

Get loved up
Better yet, take yourselves off to bed early with your best sex toy, a bottle of organic lubricant, and see where you end up

It’s likely that if you follow this advice, you’ll sleep better, feel closer and have more energy. Spending quality time together where we’re focused on our partners is essential in maintaining a bond. There is no way of avoiding the digital age but it’s important to make sure it’s balanced, especially when it comes to our most important real-world relationships.